There She Was

The Bride

I have always loved Love & Love Stories.

Imagine my surprise when I actually got to be a part of one! Especially after not dating at all in high school, barely making it through the post-high school dating gauntlet unscathed, and finding that my mate (who happens to be 8 years older than me) had been in my hometown since that daunting aforementioned gauntlet even began.

Blind date, co-worker date, friend date, embarrassingly hard (and failed) attempt at reconnecting with a middle school crush date, parent/family friend arranged date—yup. All of these were no-go’s. It came as no surprise to me then when I suggested to a guy, slightly younger than myself (whom I previously couldn’t stand) that he should take me out on a date. Surprise! It worked and we clicked for a bit. Then, we didn’t. Enter a gallant, much older man (also someone I couldn’t stand initially). Again, it clicked until it didn’t.

And then there He was. Neither of us were free, but we both enjoyed similar things, life, and were able to just enjoy one another’s company (and our mutual friends’ company, too!)

At this point, I had been a bridesmaid twice, endured two pseudo-serious engagement inquiries, and had no idea I would eventually get to be a matron of honor at my younger sister’s wedding (another one of my favorite love tales).

But, I digress. My point is simply this: No one knows anything about anyone, and never truly will unless they actually ASK.

Case in point, He asked Me. I said yes. Here we are today…21 years since we first saw each other, 17 years since we started dating, and 15 years of marriage.

Whatever it is you are needing from someone, it never hurts to just Ask. Who knows? You may actually be pleasantly surprised by the answer you receive!

-dde 2019, attempting in earnest to live happily ever after with 3 children, 2 dogs, 1 cat, in-laws, family, friends, and all.

The End


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Excerpts from The Collection-4/24/2018

Itsy Bitsy

Poor Itsy Bitsy the Spider

Left the spout for a drain thought much nicer

Then again came the rain

Clogging up the new drain

& Itsy returned to the old spout much wiser

My logic-

My logic is flawed

And often confusing

Makes me laugh at myself

At least I find it amusing!

Don’t look behind the curtain-

Don’t look behind the curtain

For I’m certain you will see

Everything you were looking for

But hoped there wouldn’t be

Don’t look beyond the surface

You never know what lies in store

But if you’ve started searching

I promise you will find more

Stick a Fork in Me, I’m Done-2014

I’m done being quiet

I’m done being calm

I’m done looking the other way

and saying nothing’s  wrong

I’m done with the heartache

I’m done with the tears

I’m done with the madness

slowly changing me, while trying to hide my fears

I’m done with the ignorance

I’m done not finding out why

I’m done letting others do it for me

and learning nothing because I didn’t try

I’m done with the hate

I’m done downplaying the love

I’m done with the bullying

squashing, tearing, destroying, the pushes and the shoves

If you’re like me

and you’re done, too

Then here’s something We Can Do

Try patience, kindness, giving and empathy with a dose of gratitude

While I may be done with some things,

It’s clear to me that part is true

I’m not done with acceptance and forgiveness

I’m not done with Me or with You

And when you see someone else stand up

and begin to speak for themselves anew

Don’t be afraid to listen to their words

For they flowed from their heart to their lips straight to you

Embrace, Discuss, Parlez and Remark

For those ideas, feelings and thoughts all ring true

Listen, Consider, Tune In, Hear them out

Be done with fear and angst and begin to truly, truly Be You, too.